Photo taken at Milk Bar, New York City - July 2018
"Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful, magical person that you are." - Mandy Hale
They say a picture is worth a thousand words. I believe it to be true. When you look at a photo, do you wonder how the person was feeling, what obstacles they were tackling, what was flowing through their heart or their mind at the time?
Here are some of the most real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful, and magical things about me.
I walked 20,000 steps this day. It was hot. But the journey to Milk Bar to taste the dreamy cereal milk soft serve was worth it. I first learned about Chef Christina Tosi through Chef's Table on Netflix. Christina and I share a similar belief in that, if you're going to eat a cookie, you're not eating it because it's healthy. Dessert is meant to be enjoyed. Do it moderately and enjoy it. Because of my passion and profession in health coaching, some are surprised that I would indulge in ice cream or cookies or anything "bad" for you. To me, food is beautiful and magical. It's meant to be appreciated and enjoyed. There's a powerful connection between food and mood. It's not to be rushed. If you are present to how the food makes you feel and you're into feeling good...you have the upper hand and the control.
What's real? I eat the best quality ice cream intentionally on occasion. Really though, I prefer a beautiful and colorful bowl of fruit. I was never much of a sweet tooth kind of girl. A bite here or there was enough to satisfy me. I always hated drinking the milk after eating cereal. But this....this cereal milk soft serve was spot on and took me straight back to my childhood. It reminded me of my babysitter, Stephanie, who would love this place and perhaps remember this time too.
What's imperfect? I don't believe in perfect. Perfect is an excuse for never starting or finishing something. I believe in moderation and staying present to what is. When you believe that you are enough, you've always been enough and you will always be enough, a little taste of indulgence outside of yourself is all you need.
What's flawed? What's flawed are constructs and systems that keep people stuck and playing small. We all have a desire to fit in, to find our people, to be heard, listened to and most importantly understood. We wouldn't choose to be sick and in pain or struggling at every turn. Yet, most of us are battling something that the other knows nothing about. Couple that with limited or no physical movement, poor food choices, poor sleep, poor energy, poor education, overwhelm, financial distress, other types of stress and loss and you've got a recipe for sabotage, disease and disaster. Look around, most people are sick, broke and unhappy. That's not why we were put on this planet. I'm here to change that! When I eat like shit, don't move my body, have too many drinks, get poor sleep, the people around me are checked out, I feel flawed too! So, I wake up, I say to myself "this is not the truth of who I am" and I do better next time.
What's quirky? What is quirky is that I wear earplugs on the train and to bed and anywhere else I need to limit loud noise and distraction - think screaming baby on an airplane. I also wear a sleep mask to block out light and a night guard to keep from grinding subconsciously. Everything is a practice.
What's weird? I am living what would seem to some by the seat of my pants (being present) and I am as calm and free and feeling abundant as I've ever been. I'm challenged daily by learning, honing new skills and staying outside the zone of comfort and always heading toward my zone of genius. (Reminds me of a great book - The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks - read it!)This is the power of mindfulness, meditation, gratitude, movement, journaling and appreciation. It's not weird until you become a believer and a healer. What is weird is that people think they couldn't be like me. That's right. There is only one me. But, you could be you. What is weird is that people are afraid of how powerful they are. I haven't even scratched the surface of my full potential. That's WEIRD! What is weird is I used to care what people thought of me. Mostly, I let that go.
What's beautiful? I AM BEAUTIFUL. I AM BEAUTIFUL. I AM BEAUTIFUL. And so it is and so it shall also be for you. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
What's magical? Every day we wake up, we have choices. We make decisions. Even when we don't make decisions, that's a decision. There are consequences to your actions and inactions. Every day when you wake up, ask yourself how you want to feel today. It's a choice. It's a decision and it's a magical way to begin your day.
They say a picture is worth a thousand words. I believe it to be true. And this isn't even the half of it.